You’ve been with him for a little while now and you just found out that you’re pregnant with his baby. You may say to yourself, “I want to marry my baby daddy”. Becoming pregnant can seem to intensify feelings and can make marriage seem like the only way to become “legit” and get acceptance with regard to your relationship with your baby daddy. But, before you make any rush decisions about marrying your baby daddy, you may need to consider these things:
1. Do you love your baby daddy or do you just love the idea of being married? It’s easy to confuse the two. For some women, getting pregnant was not something that they planned and either they or their families may have strong views about unwed mothers or getting “knocked up”. For others, they just want to have an “ideal” life and lifestyle. Whether the pregnancy was a mistake or not, some are looking for the commitment and love that goes along with being married and being a mother.
2. Will your baby daddy make a good father? Though this pregnancy may have come as a surprised to you, whether or not your baby daddy wants to be a father or will make a good one needs to be considered. Does he feel an attachment to your unborn child? Does he WANT to be an active father? Is he ready to be a positive role model for your child, a life teacher for your child, or a strong emotional and financial support for the family that you two are building together? You really need to ask yourself these things.
3. Does your baby daddy want to marry you? It may seem like you are putting the cart before the horse if you jump to the conclusion that your baby daddy plans to spend the rest of his life with you and your child. Did he ever say this to you? Are you in a monogamous, committed relationship? Not just to you, but does he want to be married at all?
4. How will marrying your baby daddy better the life of you and your child? Marriage is an important step in life and it should be done for the personal betterment and satisfaction of the people that are entering into it. Think about what your baby daddy has to offer you and your child in the long term, not just for right now.
Marriage is supposed to be the start of a new chapter in your life together. You should make sure that you doing it for the right reasons and not out of a sense of necessity or haste. Life is too short to spend it with someone that is not good for you. So, when you think to yourself, “I want to marry my baby daddy”, make sure to think of all of the things that go along with that. Your life and your child’s life depends on you taking the time to think things through.